Body Image Issues After Having A Baby

I never had a perfect figure body which I could boast about but it indeed wasn’t bad either. I never had loose skin on my tummy and on the whole I could wear anything which I wish of, after some trial. I did struggle a bit to conceive which made me gain two kgs and in total I had put on some additional 14kgs during my pregnancy. I had a happy pregnancy, if I leave those horrible migraines, which I had to deal all alone in a different city during my first trimester.

My first pic was taken when I was six month post partum and second after eight month post partum

I had a C section and looked bad and moreover I had heard that because of C section, one can not lose weight easily. I hated looking at myself. The best thing which I always used to be happy about ‘of not gaining weight on my stomach area’, was also gone. It was disheartening to see my tummy bulging out and I looked so huge in front of my husband. First time in my life I had this feeling that I might not look attractive to my husband who has always loved me and admired me selflessly. I even thought what if I look so unattractive that he starts thinking of other girls around. I am being really honest here, these were the things which did come across my mind.

Also, I exclusively breastfed my baby for five months and then started with few other thing but sadly it never worked for me. When my baby was five months old, I joined gym and worked out there regularly for one and half hours but my weight was intact. Mind you I had given up rice, paratha, icecreams etc etc but it still didn’t help. It was tough juggling between a baby, work, family, house management(my in-laws live far from us). When you like yourself, you believe in doing everything but when you doubt yourself you don’t take interest in other things as well. Somehow it works that way for me .If I am happy I can do tonnes of work but if sad I will be lazy going to the loo as well.

Above is my picture taken in May 2013 and I have lost around two kg more after switching to wheat belly diet.I will be showing my latest picture soon to you guys, probably after my daughter’s birthday

I wonder how Aishwarya managed to take so much criticism  for two years and then lost weight but I am glad she has managed to shut people’s mouth now.

The thing is, your body will not be the same after having a baby. Most of us will have stretch marks – albeit they looked horrible initially but now they have faded down and don’t look that bad at all. I remember dumping all my clothes into a box thinking they will never be of use to me but the good part is after eleven months I am thinking of taking them out because I am fitting into my new clothes.

What made me lose weight :-

I followed a diet where I was not eating roti but good carbs like ragi, lot of dals, khichdi, soups , eggs every day.That diet made me lose 5-6 kgs but then again my weight got stuck. I continued for two months more but my weight didn’t budge so I left the diet and move to wheat belly diet. After following that diet I have lost 3kg more. I am so so happy after following wheat belly because I can eat as much as I want with no control over quantity – that is what I was missing. “Just eat one slice, two spoons etc etc” never gave me that  kind of satisfaction and I was always low on energy.Now I am much better with energy, my hair have grown longer and yes no quantity control. Just eat as much you want leaving beside carbs. You can read about wheat belly diet on Tanveer’s blog here. I always thought that wheat belly is not practical but on the contrary i think its the easiest diet I have followed till date.

I have PCOS and my hormones keep dancing around. They refuse to make me lose weight easily and this diet is giving me one wonderful gift and that is I never gain my weight back even when i don excercise for 15-20 days which was always the case before.If I didn’t exercise before my weight will shoot up by a kg or so or even more.

I have literally struggled hard with my weight after my pregnancy but now I am quite confident.I am back to my pre pregnancy weight and there is quite a bit of bulge around my tummy but I guess I need just 4-5 kgs more and that will be it.

My advise for new moms will be – I know you don’t have time.You will never have time after you become a mom but respect your body and give good importance to it .If you are trying hard to lose weight then follow good diets – they do work.You got to chose between paratha and a good figure.I chose the good figure but please don’t expect to get back into shape with in just 2-3 months. It took you nine months to have a baby so give atleast nine months to your body as well to get back into shape. But please put some effort. Don’t think that you will lose weight easily. If you can then you are lucky. I never had those lucky genes unfortunately.Also, don’t delay too much.You can lose the maximum in the first year after that it will be difficult but yes not impossible.

Also, stretch marks will be there but they will eventually fade out .Also, if you were 32 B before and now 36 or 38 D whatever don’t worry with weight loss you will get in shape but yes it may not be the same ever .Love and believe in yourself and be disciplined.Also, now we have a mom body so its kind a OK

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