Guidelines for Enriching Your Child with Good Manners
For any mother, the greatest priority is to ensure that her child grows in a healthy and safe way. However, it is also essential, as a mother, to educate your kid with the right values and ethics that your parents passed onto you. Therefore, it is necessary, despite your busy schedule to look after his meals, napkin changes and laundry work, to start teaching your toddler the difference between right and wrong- enrich him with good manners. As your toddler grows each day, his mental development is also development is also evident along with his physical growth.
Here are some of the steps that you take to give him lessons on making the right choice in everyday life.
Showing the Difference between ‘Right’ and ‘Wrong’:
For a toddler, the definition of right and wrong is pretty simple- while right is getting what he wants, wrong can only mean it can lead to trouble for him. Morally right behaviour will only develop with time, only if you help him out. This ethically correct behaviour will be displayed by him later in his life, as he will want the ‘authoritative figures’ in your family to approve of him and earn their respect. With the passage of time, morally correct behaviour will be important to him as he will understand that it is required to live in a society. But as a toddler, he is unaware of all this and is in need of your coaching as well as support to implant the senses of power to distinguish between what needs to be done and what is not right to do. Give your toddler empathetic reasons for why you impose rules. For example, if your kid took away someone else’s favourite toy, you tell him that such an act caused pain and made the other child cry and thus establish your rule. You can do the same by asking questions to him
Showing Kindness and Respect:
One of the most simple ways to teach your kid how to be courteous and give respect to others is by explaining the importance of it to him and showing him how to do it by being a modelling it to him. You must give a reason for explaining the same to him. You need to tell him that in order to appreciate others efforts one must say ‘thank you’ and to make a request one has to say ‘please’. This also shows that you care for them. Use such words generously when you talk to others as well as with him and make sure that politeness is implied when you use them. Initially, he may need prompting often later on it will become a part of his nature only if you keep showing him the way by implying these ethics in your life.
A Psychological View on Good Manners:
Psychologists have listed down some of the major points that will help you to easily pass down good manners to your child. Read on to learn more about these ideas.
The first and foremost thing that you need to do is stay rooted to the fundamentals in good manners. Words like ‘thank you’ and ‘please’ is good enough for starters. Politeness and respect is evident through these phrases so encourage him to use it frequently, especially in the early years.
Be an Example:
The next step is to stand as an example. Your child looks up to you for everything in his initial years in the world. He is listening, watching and absorbing all that you are doing and saying. So, you have to be conscious all the time and be ‘good-mannered’ yourself. Do not interrupt when others are speaking and be respectful inn your approach to others in your words as well as your body language.
Most importantly, you need to keep a positive mindset while inculcating good manners in your child. Instead of chiding when he fails to show respect or display kind gestures, focus on appreciating his efforts at times when he remembers to be well-behaved. It may be disappointing when your child does not behave well with others, but shouting at him will not help the cause. He may on the other hand, become a recluse and resist learning anything good. Allow him to exert what he learns in his own independent way and will not grow resistant to it.
A final word, making him learn good manners is not enough. You need to make him apply them outside the home. With consistency in your training, he will become well-behaved even in public. And that is exactly what you want- just be patient and consistent.
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